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Copyright 2011 Shilo McCabe

I masturbate because I love it! I can have all the partnered sex one can offer, and I still need to masturbate. It is a form of sex after all. I watch porn when I masturbate. I like watching a scene that will probably never occur in my life in exactly that way. I can get into a fantasy and really play with the voyeuristic energy and stroke myself for a good amount of time before cumming. I'll bring myself right up to the edge of orgasm and then back off until I can't take it anymore and have to release. I also like masturbating in public spaces. As to where...well, some things are best kept secret!    -Andrew

Copyright 2011 Shilo McCabe

I masturbate to explore fantasies and admit desires to myself. Those desires are sometimes sexual, sometimes not. The act of masturbation becomes a place and that place is where I can react to my thoughts and feelings without so much shame.

Masturbation is a free state for me, like driving in my car alone or wading in a creek. Sometimes masturbation is touching myself idly while I process the day. The pleasure and love I am showing my body helps keep my negative internal voices from being so harshly critical of the days actions and decisions. Sometimes when something good has happened to me or I have had a special connection with someone and have not been able to take it all in, I look forward to time in bed alone where I can replay it and fully let in the joy. I might touch myself, not necessarily to orgasm, but in concert with my positive thoughts.

Other times masturbation comes with the nastiest of porn, always just short of satisfying. These nights always leave me fantasizing about producing my own porn. Those fantasies can certainly elicit some good jacking off.

Most importantly, I explore sexual fantasies through masturbation. I fantasize in a visual way, picturing everything like a movie with a third-person point of view. Sometimes the players are myself and my partner, random Butches, beautiful Femmes, 10 gay men, or anyone else who moved me throughout my day.

Recently, I have found the courage to embrace my Butch Cock and even share this with others.
-Bobby

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I masturbate because it feels good.

Well, actually it's a little more complex than that for me. You see, I am a "good" southern girl who grew up in the late 60s and 70s and no one ever thought to explain to me what an orgasm was, let alone masturbation. The avoidance of this "taboo" subject resulted in me not having my first orgasm until I was 28. It was with my first girlfriend and it was mind blowing! After that, masturbation was something I did to get to know my body and understand how it worked. I wanted to know what felt good to me, how I liked to get off and what turned me on. Then, it evolved into a way to access BDSM fantasies I was having which I couldn't share with the same girlfriend that just a few years earlier had made me come for the first time.

Fast forward a few years. I was pregnant with my daughter. During my second and most of my third trimester I was insanely aroused. I wanted sex all the time. I felt beautiful and sexy and despite my attempts at seduction my then wife wouldn't budge; she was afraid of "hurting the baby". Even if she had been willing I don't know that it would have satisfied my huge desire. I took matters into my own hands, literally and figuratively. I started masturbating in the shower everyday, sometimes more than once a day. I had never climaxed quite like I could during those few months. My fantasies became movie like - vivid and complex. This period forever changed how I related to masturbation. It changed from something I did to feel good, to something I did to fuel my fantasies and then to fuel my shared sex life with my wife.

Now a little over six years later, masturbation has become a integral part of how I share myself with my lover. I still masturbate alone, mostly in the shower or tub, but I also do it with my lover in various configurations. Really, masturbation is not as much about self-pleasure as it is about trying to understand my desires and fantasies and then sharing them so they can be realized.

Seventeen years after that first orgasm the stigma has been stripped away for me and what's left is a profound sense of how masturbation makes my life more full and open.
-rpr

Copyright 2011 Shilo McCabe

I masturbate because it feels good! In my opinion, sex is meant to be a positive, pleasurable, and healthy thing, and who better to love my body than me? -Sonya

I agree with Dossie Easton and Catherine Lisz, authors of Ethical Slut that the basic unit of sex is not a pair, but ONE--and when I know myself and what I like, I can combine my energy with others in a healthy way. Masturbation is not only an important part of my solo sex life, it makes for sexxxy partner play too. -Jeff

Copyright 2011 Shilo McCabe

I masturbate because it helps me work through my sexual shame. Don't get me wrong, it feels great and is, as Woody Allen said, "sex with someone I love," but it is also one of the most culturally charged acts in America. Heck, if a United States Surgeon General can get fired for recommending that masturbation be taught as a form of safer sex, then you know its got some cultural stigma.