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Photos Of Arnold Schwarzenegger's Mistress Mildred Patricia "Patty" Baena And Their Son


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Mildred Patricia Baena a.k.a "Patty" Baena has the Internet buzzing today. Patty as she is known to family and friends is said to be the woman with whom Arnold Schwarzenegger fathered a child out of wedlock. Almost exactly one decade ago Arnold found out he sired a child with the family housekeeper.

Since Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver announced their split last week, there have been whispers that Maria was the one who ended the relationship because she just couldn't live with Arnold's constant cheating. Maria put up with the cheating for years but the news Arnold recently told her about the secret love child was a bit too much.

Major news organization are identifying Mildred Patricia "Patty" Baenaas as the woman who gave birth to Arnold's illegitimate son. Patty, who is 50 now, didn't tell Arnold, who is 63 now, about their son until the child was a toddler. Arnold, in turn, never bothered to share this bit of information with wife, Maria Shriver, 55, until a few months ago. The boy, whose name has not been disclosed as he is a minor, is now around 14 years old.

Patty retired as the family housekeeper in January. She lives in a four bedroom house in a Los Angeles suburb. While Arnold is said to have been "generous" financially to help raise his son. Baena is close to losing her house due to a lien placed on it by a security company.

Arnold's wife-soon-to-be-ex-wife (most likely!), Maria Shriver, found out about this particular infidelity and half brother to her children sometime in January. Shriver described the situation as "heartbreaking." "This is a painful and heartbreaking time,” Shriver said in a statement.

"As a mother my concern is for the children. I ask for compassion, respect and privacy as my children and I try to rebuild our lives and heal. I will have no further comment."

How could Maria have missed this? And I thought she was a journalist... A little Mexican kid speaking with an Austrian accent? It should have been so darn obvious. LOL!

As for Patty Baena, is no longer married—she initially told her friends, family and employers that her then-husband, whom she divorced in 2008, was the father of her child—has three other children, with whom she lives outside of Los Angeles. It is unclear when or if the teenager was informed of the identity of his real father, though Schwarzenegger has been giving financial support to the boy. Click on pictures to enlarge.


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Arnold Alois Schwarzenegger (born July 30, 1947 in Thal, Austria) is an Austrian-American former professional bodybuilder, actor, model, businessman and politician who served as the 38th Governor of California (2003–2011).

Schwarzenegger began weight training at 15. He was awarded the title of Mr. Universe at age 20 and went on to win the Mr. Olympia contest seven times. Schwarzenegger has remained a prominent presence in the sport of bodybuilding and has written several books and numerous articles on the sport. Schwarzenegger gained worldwide fame as a Hollywood action film icon. He was nicknamed the "Austrian Oak" and the "Styrian Oak" in his bodybuilding days, "Arnie" during his acting career and more recently the "Governator" (a portmanteau of "Governor" and "Terminator").

As a Republican, he was first elected on October 7, 2003, in a special recall election (referred to in Schwarzenegger campaign propaganda as a "Total Recall") to replace then-Governor Gray Davis. Schwarzenegger was sworn in on November 17, 2003, to serve the remainder of Davis's term. Schwarzenegger was then re-elected on November 7, 2006, in California's 2006 gubernatorial election, to serve a full term as governor, defeating Democrat Phil Angelides, who was California State Treasurer at the time. Schwarzenegger was sworn in for his second term on January 5, 2007.

On May 16, 2011, it was revealed that Schwarzenegger had fathered a son ten years earlier with an employee in their household named Mildred Baena, leading to his separation from his wife of 25 years, Maria Shriver. www.GutterUncensored.com


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Maria Owings Shriver ( /ˈʃrvər/; born November 6, 1955 in Chicago, Illinois, U.S.A.) is an American journalist and author of six best-selling books. She has received a Peabody Award, and was co-anchor for NBC's Emmy-winning coverage of the 1988 Summer Olympics. As executive producer of The Alzheimer's Project, Shriver earned two Emmy Awards and an Academy of Television Arts & Sciences award for developing a "television show with a conscience". She was formerly First Lady of California as the wife of actor and then-California Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger, and is a member of the Kennedy family. www.GutterUncensored.com


Cheating - The Other Woman's Story

You kids have really blown me a way with your comments and experiences related to my series of posts on Cheating this week. Thank you so much for your honesty and for sharing so openly.

I have the distinct honor today of hosting a guest post from the fabulous Jewels from Jewels Turning 30. You need to go check her blog out, she writes the most amazing things. Jewels is opening herself  up the the good people of Random Girl to share some personal and insightful findings on her experience as "the other woman" in the cheating scenario. She has done some very revealing posts on her site as well and I will include links to those at the end of this post for further reference. Jewels, you are brave and beautiful and I think you for sharing your story. Please take her words as what they are, the truth and a cautionary tale, and not pass judgement.

Jewels Story

I am so happy to be guest blogging for Randy although I wish it wasn’t as an expert at being “the other woman”…but I’ll take what I can get. I have made no secrets about having been a mistress or sleeping with men who had girlfriends but I’ve also made no secret about how much heartache this has brought me. As with any woman who allows herself to be in a relationship like this it definitely stemmed from a lower self esteem. I find this hard to admit because I consider myself a very confident person and for a long time thought that I was in control so no harm, no foul, but that’s just not the way it went.

I am a woman, an emotional, loving woman and I cannot fully separate sex from love so eventually I developed feelings for these men. I have never and would never ask a man to leave the person he was with, for several reasons. First of all, any man who cheated on his woman with me will cheat again and I could never trust him…so why would I encourage him to leave her for me—he’d be horrible relationship material. Secondly, if I thought he could change for me, and I wouldn’t I assure you because I have no faith left in fidelity, he would resent me forever for ending that relationship or forcing his hand.

I was addicted to the thrill of an affair, the naughty emails and texts, the secret phone calls and meetings. I got off on the fact that nobody knew what we were doing…on seeing him out and sharing secret smiles. There was a high associated with the affair, feeling wanted and desired. It was never dull, boring, scripted…ever meeting had this vibe around it, rushed but seeming to last forever, passionate, heated, you could smell the lust in the air between us. There was this adrenaline associated with knowing this man would risk everything to be with me.

Here’s the thing though…when I had a bad day and needed somebody-he wouldn’t be there. When I was crying and sad…I was alone. Most nights I spent alone, waiting for him. I couldn’t call if he was late, had no ground to stand on if he canceled, and the rushed feeling eventually stopped being sexy. I would fall in love and they wouldn’t.

You see as a mistress I’m a warm body, a thrill, and while they may appreciate me they rarely cared about me. I could have been anyone, any warm willing person. I am a master at stroking egos, telling men what they want and need to hear. I see what is broken and I build them up until I’ve fixed it. I serve my purpose and then lose my appeal…it’s the job of a mistress, really. There is nothing flattering about being a warm body-they want anyone, not me, not really. There is nothing in being a mistress that makes my nights less lonely, not in a way that counts. It’s fun, hell yeah, it’s fun, but it’s not fulfilling.

I don’t condone what I did. I don’t pretend that my feeling bad about it makes it okay. I’m not asking anyone to understand it, accept it, or like it. I’ve never been cheated on but I imagine any woman out there who has been and is reading this hates me…and that’s okay. I’m never going to be able to change what I did, not sure I would if I could because it’s made me who I am today.  None of those relationships ended because of me, to the best of my knowledge their wives/girlfriends never even knew…but it was still wrong.

I share this, share me, this side of me I don’t like, because affairs are so often glamorized, made to seem so sexy and fun…they really aren’t. If anyone out there is considering being the other woman I write this so they know it’s not really worth it. I write this so they’ll email me and I can talk to them, no judgment, just an ear to listen and some friendly advice. I’m good at that. I write so men can see this side of it, understand how it feels to be the mistress…and hell they can email me too. I welcome it, welcome any chance to help people with the experiences and heartaches I have…maybe some good can come from it all in the end.

Again, thank you so much Jewels for sharing your perspective and experience. I admire your bravery and level of self-awareness. 

To read more of Jewel's story check out her blog at Jewels Turning 30

Cheating - Men vs. Women


Yesterday I posted on the women who cheat and the reasons behind it. If you missed it, check it out here
That spurred some great comments and discussion from both the women and the men folk that check in here at Random Girl.
One of the comments that was made by Jewels brought up another dynamic of the cheating scenario that got me thinking. She commented: I have been the woman that men cheat with but I think men's reasons and women's reasons are VERY different.


The segment I referenced yesterday listed 5 main reasons why women cheat. 
They were as follows:
1) Seeking revenge
2) They want to get caught (Exit Affair)
3) They feel lonely
4) They want to relive  their past
5)  They have a near death experience



So are men's reasons the same? I would think similar yet different but since I am a female it is total speculation on my part. Here is my theory on that. 


Random Girl's Speculative Top 5 reasons Men Cheat:
1) The opportunity presents itself.
2) Validation that he is still attractive/sexy/sought after
3) Unsatisfied with amount of sex at home
4) Because he thinks he can get away with it
5) Competitive nature 


A guy friend of mine once told me, it's not a matter of if he will cheat, it's a matter of when the opportunity will present itself. That was not something I wanted to hear as fairly recently-wed woman. 
I think most guys cheat because they need the validation. They need to know that they are still sought after, can still compete for and win the girl, and can still please a new partner. Am I close here at all guys? Set me straight. 


Guys, why did you do it or under what circumstances could you be motivated to do it? Could/can your woman do anything to prevent it?
Ladies, have you been cheated on? Did he give you a reason or do you have theory on why it happened?  Share kids! 





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Women & Cheating - The Reasons Why

Cheating.


Ladies: Have you ever? Would you ever? 
What would make you justify cheating as necessary or OK?

I know some of you may find this hard to believe based on some of my randy posts but I have never cheated in a committed relationship. Even when my marriage was in complete self-destruct mode, I never stepped out on my husband despite numerous opportunities to do so had I wanted to. I don't know why, I just didn't. It is easy enough to see how and why it happens, to both men and women though and an interesting segment I caught on TV today brought me back around to the topic.

I'm curious as to your thoughts on this.

I saw this segment on the TODAY show this morning and was intrigued by what the experts speaking on the topic proposed as reasons why women cheat and how cheating can be prevented.

First, I think it is important to note that in regards to this particular discussion, the definition of cheating was not limited to sexual acts with someone other than your partner/spouse. It was much more broadly defined to encompass any betrayal of the commitment including creating emotional ties to someone other than your partner/spouse.

I think the definition in and of itself has plenty of room for debate and I might tackle that in another post but for this, I am looking for your perspective on the reasons  listed below.

Top 5 Reasons Women Cheat:
1) Seeking revenge
2) They want to get caught (Exit Affair)
3) They feel lonely
4) They want to relive relive their past
5)  They have a near death experience

Seeking Revenge: The concept behind this driver is that the woman has been betrayed or cheated on by her spouse/partner and thus seeks to show them the same level of pain and hurt by doing it back to them.

They want to get caught (Exit Affair): This was an interesting one to me. The thinking behind this is that the woman in unhappy but feels that she can't take the initiative to just end the relationship/marriage because of social stigma or whatnot so she has an affair hoping to get caught so her partner will end it for her.  Studies show that men are much less likely to forgive the woman when she cheats and therefore would most likely take steps to end it as oppose to want to work through it.

They feel lonely: This one is pretty cut and dry. Not getting any attention or affection from the partner/spouse leads women to seek companionship (emotional or physical or both) from someone outside of her committed relationship

They want to relive their past: This is the one I have the hardest time with out of this list. What woman, or man for that matter, doesn't remember fondly the good ol' days of being wild and free, that hot Spring Break hook up, or the first love they had. But to try to recapture those feelings by having an affair? I just am not making the connection on that one.

They have a near death experience: It's not so much the actual events of the near death experience that prompt the affair but more so the evaluation of how happy or unfulfilled a woman is as she reevaluates what is really important to her after such a traumatic experience. Women that were happy just being in a mediocre marriage prior to are now seeking true romance and love and adventure to live to their fullest.

In this same segment, they also offered ways to help a woman keep from cheating on her partner/spouse. Those were equally as interesting and I'll be putting those in a follow up post for further discussion.

So what do you think? Is this really why women cheat? Have you cheated for one of these reasons or are there other more relevant reasons that they missed? Let me know! 

To see the full segment being reference, see info below
TODAYs Natalie Morales talks to Kelly Wallace, iVillage.com chief correspondent, about why more women are cheating on their significant others.
 http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26184891/vp/41968002#41968002

Graphic credit from http://www.ehow.com/how_5837692_woman-cheating.html

Courteney Cox In A Bikini With Bigger And Better Boobs


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Here is a bouncier Courteney Cox sporting a bikini while filming Cougar Town in Oahu, Hawaii yesterday. And I don't know if is was just a late bloomer but her boobs got much bigger since anyone last notice her. The Daily Mail is already speculating that Courteney may have gotten implants and they are using recent photos of her with flat titties versus these new ones as evidence. From this evidence we can conclude that there is no doubt she had some work done. Looks like Courtney treated herself to some newly divorce boobies. She is 45 year-old and recently she divorced her husband after he admitted to a steamy affair with slutty Megan Fox lookalike so I am sure Courteney was feeling unattractive. So she had the twin upgraded because she is back on the market... Enjoy. Click on pictures to enlarge.


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Courteney Cox-Arquette (born Courteney Bass Cox in June 15, 1964 in Birmingham, Alabama, U.S.A.) is an American actress, best known for her role as Monica Geller on the sitcom Friends. Cox has also starred in Dirt and the Scream series, and has guest-starred in Scrubs and in Seinfeld. She is currently starring in Cougar Town, for which she earned her first Golden Globe nomination. www.GutterUncensored.com