sex warehouse

by Airial Clark

(You can find part one of this interview here.)

 It was March when the Sex Positive Photo Project had theopportunity to photograph and speak with Dossie. She was preparing to leave thecountry soon, and with a twinkle in her eye told us that Schmact! was on hertravel itinerary.  Schmact! is theInternational Women BDSM Conferenceheld annually in Berlin. The organizers of Schmact! have been keeping the kinkin women’s sexually since 1999 and Dossie had many friends she was lookingforward to seeing again.

I asked Dossie what she thought about the ever-expandingsize of the BDSM community. “It is fabulous!” she gushed, “I’m totally excitedwith what I find all over the world.” Yet again, Dossie can bare witness to thetime before BDSM was a common enough referent to an alternate sexuality. Whenthere was no “scene”, no support networks, no Folsom Street Fairs orSchMact!’s, no acknowledgement of darker desires, “I am very pleased to seethis larger community growing.”

In comparing the 50’s and 60’s to today she says, “We haveso many resources now. I’ve spent a lot of time in the places where the scriptshave been written. Which is a great privilege, I was born at the right time Igot the rebel urge at the right time.  Iwas in the places where we deciding that the old reality wouldn’t do and sowe’re going to make up a new one.” I ask her for an example of this new realityand she tells me with a whispered excitement, and I feel like I’m being let inon a secret sexy conspiracy: “All over this country there are hotels hostingBDSM conferences where we build dungeons in the banquet rooms. It’s soexciting.” The look on her face leaves no doubt that this is a woman proud ofthe collective kinksters, perverts, tops, bottoms, freaks and sluts that shehas dedicated her life to helping.

In Part 3 we conclude our interview with Dossie’s belief inthe power of Eros and how BDSM can be healing.