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AskMen.Com is a free online web offering information for the male animal on just about anything from fashion, fine living and cars to health, sports and that most mysterious of creatures, women, and the associated topics of dating, love and sexuality.

The site recently released the results of its online survey, the Great Male Survey 2011 where over 70,000 men answered questions about dating, marriage, career, and recreation. This is the opportunity to find out everything from what the ultimate man's drink is to what percentage of men cheat (and yes, sexting is included). That's all here and more.

AskMen explains:
Who is "the modern man"? What does he look for in a partner, and does he make an effort to be romantic? How much effort does he put into his appearance, how does he stay in touch with friends and what standards of professionalism does he hold himself to? Instead of getting a social critic to tell you who you are, we decided to ask you. This summer, more than 70,000 of you (and your female counterparts) responded to the 2011 Great Male Survey and the 2011 Great Female Survey on our partner site Cosmopolitan.com. Here are the results -- concrete data and actual numbers -- that shed serious light on how the modern man thinks and behaves professionally, romantically and in his downtime, in 2011.

The Results Overview provides an interesting taste of the details available in each of the three sections.

Dating & Sex
78% of men believe they can tell if a woman is faking an orgasm.
50% of men have lied about the number of sex partners they've had.
48% of men said they would dump their partner if she became fat.

Lifestyle
32% of men believe that beer is the ultimate man's drink.
46% of men rank potential for career growth as the most important job factor.
48% of men would punch their colleague in the face, while only 29% of men would punch their boss.

Men in 2011
27% of men believe in angels (4% more than last year).
74% of men think that "sexting" is cheating if you're in a relationship.
17% of men believe revolution is the best way to reboot America's economy.


Dating & Sex
The majority of men don't cheat. 36% said, "Not at all likely. I might be tempted, but cheating violates my morals" and 36% said, "Not very likely. I might be tempted, but I love and respect her too much." Only 2% stated they already cheated while 7% declared that what she doesn't know can't hurt her. Okay, it's not 100% but 72% of the first two responses does constitute a majority.

In the Men in 2011 section, a related question is: If you're in a relationship, is "sexting" with someone else considered cheating? 73% said yes, absolutely; 16% said No, as long as no one is sending naked photos; and 11% said No, it is harmless fun. Now let me get this straight, 16% base sexting as cheating on the inclusion of naked photos? I just wanted to clarify that subtle distinction.

What follows cheating? Divorce of course and in answering the question about whether men "get screwed" by the courts in divorce, 79% responded with a resounding "Yes". 20% thought men and women were fairly and equally treated while 1% said women are the ones getting screwed by the courts.

Question #29 asked whether you (the man) can tell if a woman is faking an orgasm. 55% said they thought so, 23% said yes and 22% said no. On the other hand, how many men had faked an orgasm themselves? 70% said no; 16% said yes, on more than one occasion and finally 14% said yes but only once.


Lifestyle
What kind of a man are you and what kind of a man do you present to the world? While 46% didn't care what people think of their car, 37% thought the car was important and 17% wanted to impress people with it. Which car? 46% said a sports car was the number one choice.

What is the ultimate drink? 35% say beer; 28% say whiskey; 27% say scotch, 3% say martini and amusingly enough, 7% say whatever Don Draper from Mad Men is drinking.


Men in 2011
Now this section is an odd assortment of questions which are next to impossible to categorize.

59% of the respondents believe aliens exist while 17% believe in angels. From heaven, right? Not like "oh my gawd, that woman is an angel!" Whatever. 9% believe in ghosts and 2% believe in vampires. Hel-lo!?! Anybody know that Twilight is fiction?

Which of the following superheroes would you most want to be? 32% = Superman; 23% = Batman; 21% = Iron Man; 19% = X-Men; 5% = Captain America. What only 5% for Captain America? Obviously they haven't yet seen the new summer blockbuster Captain America: The First Avenger.

Now this question or I should say the answer, is hilarious: Which of the following poses the biggest threat to the United States? 22% said China; 12% said North Korea; 6% said Iran and 4% said Pakistan. However (hold onto your hats) a whopping 54% said the greatest threat to the United States is... the United States. Yep, you heard me. 54% think the biggest threat to the U.S. is itself. Considering the political wrangling over the debt crisis, I would say those 54% are right on the money. If America goes down, it will be its own fault, not due to some outside threat.

Now here's one that should tug at the heart strings of every women: Which of the following characteristics best defines a "real man" in 2011?
* 46% Being a great father and husband who takes care of his family.
* 24% Being a great leader and motivator.
* 10% Having manly skills, like the ability to fix things.
* 9% None of the above.
* 5% Being charismatic and popular.
* 2% Being wealthy.
* 4% Being a great seducer and/or lover.


Final Word
First Playboy released its survey (see 2011 Playboy Sex Survey) and now AskMen. This all makes for some interesting reading on the state of affairs for both sexes. After all, we're all working pretty much solo and it's nice to get the inside scoop on just what everybody else is doing. Maybe each one of us is not so far off base. How many times have we thought we might be abnormal if not weird or perverted only to discover that we're not so odd after all? There's the face of society, that squeaky clean face which is perfect, sexless and without fault, then there's reality with its imperfections, its wrinkles and oh yes, the sex too. Ha! "Normal" is pretty much normal.


References

Great Male Survey 2011

Cosmopolitan's Great Female Survey 2011
In association with AskMen, Cosmo asked some questions of a few thousand women to put together the female version of the survey.

Wikipedia: AskMen.com
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Cosmopolitan
8 Fascinating Facts About Women and Relationships

Wikipedia: Cosmopolitan (magazine)

Cosmopolitan is an international magazine for women. It was first published in 1886 in the United States as a family magazine, was later transformed into a literary magazine and eventually became a women's magazine in the late 1960s. Also known as Cosmo, its content As of 2011 included articles on relationships and sex, health, careers, self-improvement, celebrities, as well as fashion and beauty. Published by Hearst Magazines, Cosmopolitan has 63 international editions, is printed in 36 languages and is distributed in more than 100 countries.

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In the magazine's issue of June 2011 on page 68 - I mentioning that to prove I actually purchased a copy - we have the Hefner lead initiative to put together the latest and greatest in statistical analysis of our most fundamental of drives and darkest of secrets. Right off the bat, I have to smile at the editors first pointing out how a polling firm last year asked 1,074 adults, "If you had to choose, would you give up sex or the Internet?" and revealed that thirty-five percent couldn't decide. The editors commented, "It's come to this?"

It seems that this 2011 effort is the magazine's effort to put together their own numbers as a current day follow up to their last such effort. In 1983 the magazine surveyed 65,396 male and 14,928 female readers and together with these latest numbers, Playboy reports on the latest with a comparison to the state of our affairs circa the early 1980s. This year's survey is actually two surveys. The first consisted of 8,002 male and 2,001 female visitors to Playboy.Com and the second involves surveying non Playboy readers online, 1,210 men and 1,100 women.

The editors in their introduction to the survey make this observation which most certainly shines the spotlight on the differences between the world of 1983 and the world of today.

Certainly a number of factors have changed how we view and practice sex since 1983—AIDS and Viagra come to mind. But a great amount of the new data we collected points to the influence of internet porn. This includes a huge leap in the number of people who report watching adult movies (78 percent today, 40 percent in 1983). Both men and women masturbate more while having less intercourse. In 1983 we didn't ask if people shaved their pubic hair—who would do that? Now more than half the respondents in our survey are trimming. We also noticed a boost in the incidence of reverse cowgirl—woman on top, facing away—a position popularized by porn.

Need more evidence? The security cam and gonzo porn genres are phenoms supported by the huge increase in readers who say they have had sex in public or other risky places (up to 76 percent from about 35 percent). And what's one to make of the fact that 70 percent of female respondents have been photographed nude and nearly 50 percent while having sex? Thanks to digital cameras and smartphones, you no longer need to develop the film. That's progress.
(Playboy: introduction to the survey)

Selected highlights
Here are some of statistics from the survey. Remember that the current survey is compared with the previous survey done in 1983.

Sexual Frequency
The category "2 or 3 times a week" has dropped while the categories "once a week", "once a month", and "less than once a month" have gone up. This would seem to clearly indicate that couples are having less sex. Well, less sex together. - FYI: From previous reading, I would take once a week, maybe twice as being closer to the national average.

How frequently do you have sex?

• At least once a day: 5% (Male 4%, Female 8%)
• 4 or 5 times a week: 13% (Male 12%, Female 17%)
• 2 or 3 times a week: 28% (Male 28%, Female 30%)
  1983: 33.5% (Male 30%, Female 37%)
• Once a week: 22% (Male 23%, Female 21%)
  1983: 13% (Male 13%, Female 31%)
• Once a month: 14% (Male 14%, Female 11%)
  1983: 4.5% (Male 4%, Female 13%)
• Every other month: 4% (Male 4%, Female 3%)
• 2 or 3 times a year: 5% (Male 5%, Female 3%)
• Less than two times a year: 6% (Male 7%, Female 4%)
• Decline to answer: 3%

Do you find this frequency of sex satisfactory?

• Yes, the frequency is satisfactory: 32% (Male 30%, Female 41%)
• No, I'd like have sex more often: 67% (Male 69%, Female 56%)
• No, I'd like to have sex less often: 1%
• Decline to answer: 1%

Masturbation
The categories "at least once a day"and "a few times a week" have gone up while the other less frequent categories have remained pretty much the same. Once again, we have a clear indication and that is more solo sex.

• once a day: 19.5% (Male 23%, Female 15%)
  1983: 14% (Male 19%, Female 9%)
• few times a week: 40.5% (Male 44%, Female 37%)
  1983: 25% (Male 31%, Female 19%)
• once a week: 13% (Male 12%, Female 14%)
  1983: 13% (Male 14%, Female 12%)
• once or twice a month: 12% (Male 10%, Female 14%)
  1983: 15.5% (Male 13%, Female 18%)
• less than once a month: 11.5% (Male 8%, Female 15%)
  1983: 13% (Male 10%, Female 16%)

Then again, solo sex doesn't necessarily have to be solo. 55% of those surveyed have watched each other masturbate (Male:53%, Female:64%).

Have you ever...?
Interestingly enough, "cheating on a spouse" has dropped. Are we being more faithful? Or are we finding other outlets for our primal urges?

But the other categories have gone up: "talked dirty during sex", "used a vibrator", "tried bondage", and "watched porn". We are experimenting more now than we were thirty years ago.

watched porn: 78.5% (Male 78%, Female 79%)
1983: 40% (Male 38%, Female 42%)

Virgins
40 percent of adults between 18 and 24 years old have not yet had sex while 5% of those between 35 and 44 are still virgins. This is backed up by a study from the National Center for Health Statistics which concluded that teen sex has dropped. (see Teenagers and sex: More chaste, less chased) Despite all this talk about sex, we may not necessarily be going to hell in a handbasket.

Pubic hair is out
Back in the 80s, nobody thought to ask the question. Today 30% of men and 32% of women are trimming or shaving their nether regions.

STDs
I noted that several sites commenting on the Play survey were a little upset at the results concerning Sexually Transmitted Diseases. People are not doing enough to protect themselves from STDs and seem to be taking a lackadaisical attitude to it: if it happens, it happens. Come on, folks! You can do better than that! Heck, you need to do better than that. Then on top of it, if you catch something you don't inform your partner!?!

The following questions were asked of respondents who've had sex:

What do you do about protection from sexually transmitted diseases (STDS) the first time you have sex with someone?

• I use some type of protection: 47 percent (Male 53 percent, Female 22 percent)
• I offer to use some type of protection: 14 percent (Male 16 percent, Female 4 percent)
• I insist on my partner's using some type of protection: 11 percent (Male 4, Female 41)
• I don't worry about protection: 10 percent (Male 10 percent, Female 11 percent)
• I ask if my partner is using some type of protection: 6 percent (Male 5, Female 9)
• I say nothing and hope for the best: 6 percent
• I don't believe in protection: 1 percent
• Decline to answer: 6 percent (Male 5 percent, Female 8 percent)

The following questions were asked of all respondents:

Have you ever been diagnosed with a sexually transmitted disease (STD)?

• Yes: 11 percent (Male 9 percent, Female 18 percent)
• No: 87 percent (Male 90 percent, Female 80 percent)
• Decline to answer: 1 percent (Male 1 percent, Female 2 percent)

When you were diagnosed with the STD, did you inform your current and/or new partner(s)? [asked of those answered yes to previous question]

• Every time: 64 percent (Male 63 percent, Female 68 percent)
• Most time: 8 percent (Male 9 percent, Female 7 percent)
• Sometimes: 5 percent
• Rarely: 3 percent (Male 4 percent, Female 2 percent)
• Never: 12 percent (Male 13 percent, Female 11 percent)
• Decline to answer: 7 percent

Have you ever been tested for HIV/AIDS?

• Yes: 52 percent (Male 49 percent, Female 66 percent)
• No: 43 percent (Male 46 percent, Female 29 percent)
• Not sure: 4 percent
• Decline to answer: 1 percent

Birth Control
The above questions cover STDs but what about babies?

The following question was asked of straight people who've had sex with opposite gender:

What do you do about birth control the first time you have sexual intercourse with someone?

• I use some type of birth control: 39 percent (Male 38 percent, Female 44 percent)
• I ask if my partner is using some type of birth control: 17 percent (M19, F3)
• I don't worry about birth control: 12 percent (Male 11 percent, Female 15 percent)
• I offer to use some type of birth control: 12 percent (Male 13 percent, Female 3 percent)
• I insist on my partner's using some type of birth control: 10 percent (M7, F24)
• I say nothing and hope for the best: 5 percent (Male 6 percent, Female 3 percent)
• I don't believe in birth control: 1 percent
• Decline to answer: 5 percent (Male 4 percent, Female 7 percent)

Who's having an orgasm?
There two sides the coin here: people saying whether they've had an orgasm or not then whether they think their partner has had an orgasm or not. And just so you know, 31% say they have faked an orgasm (men:24%, women:59%). Keep that in mind as you look over the percentages.

During sex, would you say that you have an orgasm…

• Always: 55 percent (Male 61 percent, Female 30 percent)
• Usually: 32 percent (Male 31 percent, Female 36 percent)
• Sometimes: 8 percent (Male 5 percent, Female 19 percent)
• Rarely: 3 percent (Male 1 percent, Female 10 percent)
• Never: 1 percent (Male: less than 1 percent, Female 5 percent)
• Decline to answer: 1 percent

During sex, would you say that your partner has an orgasm…

• Always: 40 percent (Male 32 percent, Female 73 percent)
• Usually: 42 percent (Male 47 percent, Female 23 percent)
• Sometimes: 13 percent (Male 16 percent, Female 2 percent)
• Rarely: 3 percent (Male 3 percent, Female less than 1 percent)
• Never: 1 percent
• Decline to answer: 1 percent

BDSM
A walk on the wild side? Bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism, covers a spectrum of dominance and submission role-playing. I'm reading the book Shameless by Pamela Madsen and she touches upon the rewards of this usually hidden part of one's psyche. Don't knock it until you've tried it. (Wikipedia:BDSM; Shameless by Pamela Madsen)

Spanking: 54% (Men:51%, Women:66%)
Bondage: 24% (Men:22%, Women:32%) - 1983: 14% (Men:11%, Women:17%)
Choking games: 12% (Men:10%, Women:20%)
Had “rough” sex: 62% (Men:58%, Women:76%)
Used a blindfold during sex: 32%t (Men:30%, Women:37%)

Pornography
As the editors pointed out, with the availability of pornography over the Internet, it would seem that more people have watched it or are viewing it and as such, it has had an influence on what we do. As previously stated, 78.5% of the respondents watch porn (Male 78%, Female 79%) as compared to 1983 when it was 40% (Male 38%, Female 42%). 63% of the respondents have watched pornography together (male 62%, female 70%).

In the past five years have you done any of the following?

• Visited a hardcore online website: 71% (Male: 74%, Female: 54%)
• Visited a strip club: 46% (Male:48%, Female:35%)
• Paid for a lap dance: 30% (Male:33%, Female:17%)
• Paid to view a sexual pay-per-view movie/event on television: 20% (Male:21%, Female:18%)
• Paid for access to hardcore online website: 12% (Male:14%, Female:7%)
• Subscribed to a premium adult television channel: 10% (Male:11%, Female:8%)
• Paid for a sensual massage: 7% (Male:8%, Female:5%)
• None of these: 16% (Male:14%, Female:27%)
• Decline to answer: 1%

Do you have any sexually explicit material on your computer?

• Yes: 59% (Male 63%, Female 41%)
• No: 39% (Male 35%, Female 58%)
• Decline to answer: 1%

Buying the magazine
The survey was published in the June 2011 issue of Playboy so I purchased a copy of the magazine so I could read all the details first-hand. It was a personal sacrifice for the sake of journalism.

I bought a copy which represented the first time I had bought any explicit material in 20 years. - Gosh, am I out of touch or what? - But after I bought it, I realised I should have brought my briefcase as I was then obliged to walk around carrying the magazine and even had to walk back to my office with it. I felt like an embarrassed teenager hoping nobody would catch me with it. Ha!

I know everybody's going to chuckle at me saying this, but I always remember Playboy as a quality publication merely with tasteful pictures of naked women. I said that if you took out the photographs, you would have a magazine on par with something like Harper's or Atlantic Monthly. In other words, I would have bought it even if it didn't have the pics. It was a good read.

Final Word
I discovered that the on-line version of the survey has a more comprehensive list of the survey than the magazine does. - I didn't have to buy the mag at all. - Below you will find links to the Playboy web site and can read over all the questions. I did not exhaustively cover everything and there are more interesting and titillating numbers to peruse about our collective sexual proclivities. I don't know if there is any conclusion to be made like the situation is worse now than it was in 1983 when Playboy conducted its first survey, but it seems that things are different.

I know that there is a vocal minority who are saying Internet pornography represents the Four Horses of the Apocalypse, however like everything with the Internet, this means everybody has more access to more information, information that was previously denied them. With the good comes the bad and I am sure this will sort itself out sooner or later. I strongly believe in sex education and it is because of ignorance that we end up in trouble. Well educated and fully informed people make better choices.

Sex remains pretty much a taboo subject. While we talk about it more today, we probably still don't talk about it enough; we have a lot of misinformation. Surveys like this shed a little light on what we collectively are doing and if nothing else, we might feel just a tad less ashamed of ourselves when discovering that we are not as perverted as we think. Thanks, Hef.


References

2011 Playboy Sex Survey: Introduction

Playboy Reader Survey
Responses from 8,002 male and 2,001 female visitors to Playboy.com
[At the bottom of the page, there are links to click to all 5 pages of the survey.]

Playboy/Harris Survey
Online interviews 1,210 men and 1,100 women
[At the bottom of the page, there are links to click to all 6 pages of the survey.]

official web site: Playboy.Com

Playboy Magazine

85 things you should know about Hugh Hefner
On April 9, Playboy's founder turned the big 8-5, which most of humanity would consider quite a lifetime.

my blog: Sex in the Digital Age
For the past three years, the magazines Shape and Men's Fitness have teamed up to do an annual sex survey.
Would you rather give up your cell phone or sex for a year? 61% of the women and 78% of the men said they'd give up the cell. Okay, but I have to reflect on the other 39% of the women and the 22% of the men who could not give up their cell phone. I guess you only need one hand for a cell.

my blog: Teenagers and sex: More chaste, less chased
In 2002, in the age group 15 to 24, 21.9% of females and 21.9% of males reported no sexual contact with another person. In this latest study, females were 28.6% and males were 27.2%. In the group of teenagers, aged 15 to 19, 41.6% of the males have never had sexual contact with the opposite sex while for females, the number was 46.8%.

my blog: Pornography: an investigation
10 articles; 1 set of conclusions; 58 pages; 22,000 words; 4 weeks of research

2011-05-26

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For the past three years, the magazines Shape and Men's Fitness have teamed up to do an annual sex survey. This year's effort has focused on love in the Internet age and asked some "digital questions" which reveal interesting information about how social media is affecting not just our lives, but our love lives. More than 1,200 readers of the two magazines participated in the survey and now that I have just back from the store after purchasing my copy of the February 2011 edition of Shape magazine, let's dig into those results in the article titled "Sexting: Is it helping or hurting your love life?". Just an FYI, Shape's target audience is women and the results of the survey have been written up by a woman as though she's talking to another woman. She keeps saying things like "your man", "how do you respond", etc.

First of all, 47 percent of the readers said their sex life was, as the magazine printed it, a-m-a-z-i-n-g. Hmmm, I guess that's better than just "amazing"? That compares to 21% in last year's survey. Are things getting better? Those percentages would lead me to think things are m-u-c-h-b-e-t-t-e-r.

However, 51% of the respondents said their couple-time in this digital era is less intimate than it used to be. The mag paints the picture of the guy attached to his iPad and the woman checking her cell. Oddly enough, when I read "less intimate than it used to be" I had to ask myself just how old these survey participants are. The Internet took off in 1995 which is 16 years ago. Cell phones have been around even longer. How old would you have to be to be able to make such a statement? It seems to me that this would infer one was old enough to have experience with relationships in an era other than the digital one. Would that mean you'd have to be [gasp] older than 40?

You may feel your man digitally distracted when you're hanging out but post-sex, he's all yours. More than 85% of guys said that, if they had to choose between cuddling, checking their phone, or surfing the Web after making love, they'd pick snuggling up to you. Right answer.

It turns out that Facebook may just be some sort of aphrodisiac. Communicating via social networking, instant messaging and texting are said by both men and women to lead them to the bedroom faster. The survey found that 80 percent of women felt relationships lead to sex more quickly since it is so easy to stay connected. Fifty-eight percent of the men stated that flirting over Facebook, texts and Gchat helped them get women into the sack sooner.

Does digital communication intensify the feelings we have in our relationships? Do those lovey-dovey text messages increase our anticipation and naturally pave the way to the bedroom sooner? Whatever the case, the survey found out that only 38% of the women said they had actually slept with a partner sooner than they otherwise would have due to a textual relationship. So, 80% felt it hastened things but only 38% said they did it. The proof is in the pudding?

Certainly the way we communicate is changing. Most communication between couples is now happening by text instead of phone according to the survey with men saying they texted 39% more often than they called, and women reporting that they texted 150% more often than phoning. I wonder how many people do it the old fashioned way: in person?

That doesn't seem surprising when 65% of respondents said they had been asked out via text message and 49 percent through a Facebook message. And how personal is this digital communication? 43% of women and 27% of men reported at least one instance of getting dumped via text. Getting dumped by text; now how personal is that? I look down at my Blackberry and read, "It's not you; it's me." Hmmm, how do I text "B.S."?

Before anybody does any communicating, 70 percent of women and 63 percent of men will use social media tools and Google to screen potential dates. Should I include the email address of my parole officer? Maybe references are important for any woman checking me out.

However, once the dating starts, 72 percent of women admitted in the survey to looking through a current partner's ex-girlfriends' Facebook pages. What? Men have a list of ex-girlfriends? Now there's a recipe for disaster. Never admit to anything. The current one is the only one and any previous ones were just insignificant lead-ups to the right one, that is, the current one. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

A few surprises or maybe not surprises in the survey?

76 percent of women said they would look at their partner's e-mail account if it was left open. Sixty-nine percent of men admitted to the same thing. Really? Now here I was thinking you were honest... [as I look in your Inbox for incriminating evidence of other men]!!!

Would you rather give up your cell phone or sex for a year? 61% of the women and 78% of the men said they'd give up the cell. Okay, but I have to reflect on the other 39% of the women and the 22% of the men who could not give up their cell phone. I guess you only need one hand for a cell.

What do you do if you receive a call or text during sex? 87% ignore it; 7% silence it; 5% glance to see who's calling and 1% stop to answer the phone. For the people other than the 87%, are you kidding me? You wouldn't ignore it? Gee, thanks. Here I was thinking I was a stud muffin and it ends up I may only be distracting you until something or someone more interesting comes along. Ha! But here's a newsflash for the bunch of ya: how about turning the damn thing off before you start?

Would you consider it cheating if your partner went into a sex chat room? 66% or the women and 45% of the men said yes. Of course this survey was done over the Internet so technically speaking, they didn't "say" yes, they actually "texted" yes. The bottom line is that even if you don't exchange bodily fluids, you can still get into trouble for exchanging thoughts.

Have you ever joined an online dating site? 28% said yes; 72% said no. No snide remark.

If you met your guy on a dating site, do you admit it?
5%: Yes, I like to spread the word that dating sites work.
25%: No, I'm too embarrassed.
41%: If someone asks, but I don't brag about it.
29%: No, it doesn't matter how we met.

Reboot your relationship
A sidebar in the article mentions some advice from Belisa Vranich, clinical psychologist and expert in sex and relationships. She talks about powering off the devices during dates and before going to bed. Let's focus on our partner. She also says that while sexting and instant messaging during the day has its place (keeping things hot), save some of those "i<3u" for when you are together in person. Make a point to tell your partner that he's wanted, needed, and loved. This seems to be directed at the female reader but I guess the same is applicable to us guys.

Bottom line: don't forget what to do when you are actually standing face-to-face. Remember? The "real" world?

Final Word
The digital age is upon us. Faster connections, faster break-ups, possibly less intimacy. Or is this a different kind of intimacy? Now, as I lovingly gaze into your eyes while whispering sweet nothings... Oops! [I hold up a finger in a gesture to ask for a pause] "Hold that thought!" [I pull out my vibrating phone to check the latest message from somebody other than you]

It's at this point you stand up, pick up your purse and walk out on me. Dumping my water glass out onto my lap is optional.


References

Men's Fitness Magazine

Shape Magazine
The February 2011 issue of Shapes features the results of the latest survey.

ABC News - Jan 26/2011 (story and video)
Facebook as Foreplay? Survey Says Social Media Leads to Sex Faster
Shape, Men's Fitness Survey Says Social Networking Leads Couples to Bed Sooner

2011-01-29

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